The Green Eyed Monster
Courtney Lombard
Capella University
The Green Eyed Monster
So your best friend wears a size zero and complains that it is too big on her! Your next-door neighbor is driving a Mercedes and your car can barely make it to the end of the driveway. Your sister takes off for a week-long vacation in the Caribbean and you cannot get farther than the state park, Jealous? Who wouldn't be? Sure, there are times when everyone else seems to have more, do more, or look better. However, is that really the case?
“Jealousy, it seems, is a fundamental aspect of human social life. For as far back in time or as widely across civilizations as one can peer, the green-eyed monster has reared its head” (Desteno, valdesolo, & Bartlett, 2006). Jealousy is the root of many evils that can affect the poorest of paupers to the richest of kings. It has led men to lie, cheat, steal and exhibit other harmful acts toward their fellow man. This one emotion has broken the spirits of men since the dawn of time, and there is no end in sight. Jealousy is defined as a jealous attitude or disposition or close vigilance. However, this brief definition does not tell the whole story. For some, jealousy is much more than an attitude or disposition it is a way of life, and for others, it can consume their lives, changing it forever. Consider the example of a beautiful socialite who finds her husband with his secretary/lover and kills them both in a jealous rage. Reaction to a negative or passionately charged situation is what makes jealousy so dangerous.
If jealousy can be so dangerous, is envy dangerous too? Envy and jealousy are often used interchangeably, but when used correctly, they stand for two distinctly different emotions. Envy also can be a dangerous emotion, but there is something important that separates it from jealousy, passion. You can be envious of your neighbor's new car or your...