Part A - What might be some of the difficulties and rewards of being a carer for a family member?
When a member of the family becomes ill or infirm it is in our nature to want to help care for them. “The word carer means someone who looks after a friend, relative or a neighbour who needs support because of their sickness, age or disability” (Direct Gov. 2006). This quote refers to a wide scope of different levels of family care, from a friend who comes in for an hour a day to a live in relative who cares on a full time basis.
In this essay Ann and Angus are the primary case study, I will also reference the Hussein study as a parallel comparison under differing circumstances. We will illustrate the difficulties and rewards caring for someone can bring. Ann’s story tells of how after the passing of her mother, she made a promise to look after her father who was suffering with Parkinson’s disease. It was clear Ann felt obligated to honour her promise and do her duty.
Being a full time carer is a demanding role, Ann didn’t realise how hard it can be both physically and emotionally. Overwhelmed with her new responsibilities, she struggled juggling her work and the needs of her family. She came to the decision to resign from her job, in order to take more control, “it was the right thing to do”. Ann, the only close relative left, felt she had ‘no choice’ but to care full time for Angus.
People who find themselves in these situations take more and more responsibility, going above and beyond their role as a caring relative or friend. Ann stated in the interview “I do everything for my Dad. Everything! Get him up, shower him, toilet him, dress him, everything, because he can’t do it for himself!” (Joyce Cavaye, 2006 p7) She would also do the household cleaning, washing, and cooking.
Keeping up with the continuous demands of Angus took most of her time, she felt isolated, trapped and over worked. Consequently Ann’s marriage became strained, her daughter,...