Term 'carer' means someone who looks after a relative, friend or neighbour who needs support because of their sickness, age or disability. It does not always mean a professional care-worker in a nursing or residential home. It could mean family carer who sometimes does not realise that they are actually carers. It could mean employed person who takes care of personal requirements of someone who needs help with everyday duties. Carers play a vital role in other's lives – looking after those who are sick, disabled, vulnerable or frail.
As example I would like to describe rewards and difficulties of care for Ann and her step father Angus and Ann's family (husband Bob and daughter Zoe) and how different situations reflect in their everyday life.
Ann did not recognise herself as a carer from the beginning as it was her mother who took care of him but when she passed away Ann did not know how much her mum used to do for Angus. She took responsibility for her father and she felt she had no choice because she thought people would expect it of her as it is mainly 'woman's job' and because her and her family were living in Angus's house so it was 'time to repay the favours'.
Caring for a family member can change the relationship between the carer and the person who is being cared for. In the case of Angus and Ann it is apparent that their relationship is suffering. Ann feels trapped by her sense of duty as a daughter and Angus feels that he has become a burden.
They are rewards and difficulties in her life while caring for Angus. He was used to have his wife to take care and help him with everything he wanted and needed. And the same he was expected from Ann but he did not look at the fact that there was her family too to take care of at the same time. He wanted Ann to help him with personal needs such as bathing, toileting, dressing,creaming, helping him up and down the stairs, in and out of bed, give him medicine and most importantly keep him...