Masking Poor Communication
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Masking Poor Communication
Communication is the number one problem in couples households today. The first step to an effective relationship or marriage is realizing that each requires a different way of communicating. It is a known fact that men and women communicate differently; therefore it’s inevitable when problems arise.
After reading the article entitled, “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication, one of the things that stood out to me that the author said was, "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate.” One has to realize that just because you’re married doesn’t necessarily mean you know everything about your partner. Because most couples bring other communication skills from other situations assuming it will be effective.
I find that most of my miscommunication is done while placing an order at a fast food restaurant. I notice after the fact that, I am mentally thinking one thing and when its time for me to verbally deliver the feedback I say something totally different. After the order is paid for and handed to me, I complain about the order being wrong, in fact this action was my fault because my attention was somewhere else. According to our text Sole says that this is called, “Attending which is the act of focusing on specific objects or stimuli in the world around you. As you go through the day, your physical environment is full of competing sights, sounds, and smells.” (Sole 2011). I’ve tried ways to prevent that situation from becoming a habitual habit by, writing down my order before I get to the restaurant.
The second statement that the author said was, "Our problem in communicating with friends and spouses is that we have an illusion of insight. Getting close to someone appears to create the illusion of understanding more than actual understanding." This is a very true statement, we all think that just...
Communication is the number one problem in couples households today. The first step to an effective relationship or marriage is realizing that each requires a different way of communicating. It is a known fact that men and women communicate differently; therefore it’s inevitable when problems arise.
After reading the article entitled, “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication, one of the things that stood out to me that the author said was, "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate.” One has to realize that just because you’re married doesn’t necessarily mean you know everything about your partner. Because most couples bring other communication skills from other situations assuming it will be effective.
I find that most of my miscommunication is done while placing an order at a fast food restaurant. I notice after the fact that, I am mentally thinking one thing and when its time for me to verbally deliver the feedback I say something totally different. After the order is paid for and handed to me, I complain about the order being wrong, in fact this action was my fault because my attention was somewhere else. According to our text Sole says that this is called, “Attending which is the act of focusing on specific objects or stimuli in the world around you. As you go through the day, your physical environment is full of competing sights, sounds, and smells.” (Sole 2011). I’ve tried ways to prevent that situation from becoming a habitual habit by, writing down my order before I get to the restaurant.
The second statement that the author said was, "Our problem in communicating with friends and spouses is that we have an illusion of insight. Getting close to someone appears to create the illusion of understanding more than actual understanding." This is a very true statement, we all think that just...