Genen Llena Marie M. Sayre
Western Leyte College
Bachelor of Science Major in Accountancy
Teenage Issue: High Parental Expectation
Parenting teenagers is like walking on thin ice. Parents need to strike the right balance. Often times parents live their dream through their children this is when the pressure builds. Expecting the teenager to excel in academics, get good grades, be the child of their expectations – well behaved, responsible for themselves and sometimes for their younger siblings and bring in any awards from extra curricular activities - is in itself enough pressure.
Authoritarian parents are highly demanding and directive, meaning they set rules, and expect their orders to be obeyed, but are not responsive, which means they have these expectations, but do not feel they need to explain why they have rules. It is the idea of obedience without explanation, or blind obedience. While this sounds negative, the fact is that these parents appear to be great as they provide a well-ordered and structured environment for their children to grow up in. The rules are stated and clear. Some authoritarian parents are intrusive, others are autocratic.
In a lengthy article of researcher, Lex D. Sommer he said “the results of authoritarian parenting are poor in the long run. Short term, they have well behaved children who follow rules, do well in school, and do not cause problems. Long term, they have poor socially adjusted children that lack creativity, and the ability to think for themselves and exercise independence”. This part of Lex D. Sommer article can be useful towards defining the problem and figuring out the causes. I can also use this article to point out how teenagers has its issues on their parents.
Lex’s article was very helpful. He gives meaning to the effects of this kind of parenting style? Well, of course every child is going to be different, but research has shown that children and adolescents from authoritarian parents tend to perform...