A family consisting of one parent (either mother or father) with their children/child.
A family consisting of one parent (either mother or father) with their children/child.
A single parent family is…
Dan’s story…
Here is an example of a single father, and his story.
Dan is a single dad to his son Carl, who’s nine. Carl has not seen his mum for five years. "Carl’s mum got pregnant two months after we met. We were surprised but he was a wanted child. Me and his mum had a good time for a while but the relationship didn’t last. To complicate matters, I was ill with a hereditary condition; I’ve had major operations and a rough ride. For one of the operations there was only a 15% survival rate. I was in hospital for three months. Carl’s mum never visited. I knew our relationship was over but I wanted a civil split for our son’s sake. Carl was five when his mum and I eventually separated. Carl was a daddy’s boy. His mum left and she didn’t fight for him. Carl wanted to be with me. I got full custody and she was only allowed to write. So I became a single dad. I’m not sure I realised quite what I had taken on. I surprise myself at times. My life is so different now to how it was ten years ago but I couldn’t imagine it any other way. My purpose in life is my son. I explained to him that mummy and daddy don’t love each other but we both love him. Being a single dad is difficult but I do know that worrying won’t change anything, so I try not to. There’s always something. Today, the house is untidy but I need to first get on with writing to our housing association, about some repairs. I do the ironing one day a week, then there’s the decorating to sort. Being a single parent means one person doing two people’s work. The hardest thing is finding time to do everything important – plus all the things that aren’t vital but still need doing. I think society’s view of single dads is improving.